Gentleness, nowness, and inquisitiveness

I've gotten pretty darn good at this whole gentleness with yourself thing. Suddenly I'm realizing that there's just a whole layer of self doubt and self harassment and self deprecation that just isn't happening for me. I've gotten really good at accepting things as they are, including my own thoughts and emotions (comparatively, of course - we all always have a long ways to go). And there's just been this vague feeling of, "okay, now what?"

At last night's Contentment in Everyday Life class, three qualities of contentment were discussed: gentleness, nowness and inquisitiveness. And I realized that sure, I've got the gentleness thing covered far better than any other point in my life. But that doesn't necessarily mean that I'm settled into the present moment and fully engaged, inquisitive, alert. So that's my emphasis now... within that feeling of acceptance and gentleness, how do I continually perk myself up, see what's around me, and find that sense of inquisitiveness.

This morning I not only did my physical therapy exercises, but managed to do the sitting meditation and contemplation as assigned in class as well. As part of my gentleness program I've accepted that daily meditation practice just isn't a priority for me right now because I need to put my disciplined energies into other things, but the benefits I experienced from practicing this single day remind me why it's still a goal... and make me think maybe it's time to start re-prioritizing it even if I do have more than ever to put my attention on. It's not just one more thing to fit into the day... it's the foundation for everything else. But I think I'm finding that I don't need to decide, okay, now I'm going to start doing this every day. I can just notice the benefits and the fact that I was glad to do it, and look to see opportunities each day where I can integrate it more.

I think perhaps the contemplation exercises seem more immediately helpful to me than shamatha meditation, which makes sense given the way I have generally internalized these teachings more by understanding and practicing the techniques in my daily life than by meditating and then bringing that out into the world. But they also make the meditation feel more meaningful as well, turn it into a sort of support for the contemplation.